People are funny, relationships are funny, love is even funnier. But when you combine the three together, it can be quite the concoction of beliefs, theories, and opinions. So here is yet another opinion you didn't ask for. As people, and as beings we have created an image. An image of what we want for ourselves when it comes to other people. So much so, that we believe what we want should also be what others want. Being single means hearing a lot of what others think you should find in a man or women. Someone older, someone younger, someone ambitious, good sense of humor, someone who will open the door for you, pay the tab, family oriented, yaddi yaddi yadda. But it's not always about finding someone. It's not always about finding that person who will open the door for you, or finding someone who will stay when you're at your worst. It is not about finding yourself after a terrible heartbreak or reinventing yourself after a bad breakup either. We grow up watching the world pair up in twos. We are taught that we should go out into the world in search of a partner- one that will support you. I am going to tell you to go support yourself. Go find yourself without heartbreak or relationships being the center of your world or purpose in your pursuits. You don't have to be in a toxic, draining, abusive relationship to get over your fears, to climb mountains, to be successful and to learn to love yourself. Don't believe you should fall in love first to attain these things. Love is universal but sometimes you have to ask yourself, whats love got to do with it? Relationships will be a part of your life but not your whole life. You do not need this big boom of dramatization or leading storyline to represent a happy ending. I am sure your story will be just as good without a sad heartbreak leading up to it. Yes, it is beautiful to find someone who will propel you into greater things but you are your own purpose. Don't be strong just because you have someone who makes you strong. Be stronger on your own first because no one is here to save you. I'm all about love because it makes the world go round on days it feels like the earth stood still, but I am sick of hearing/reading "find someone who will love you, find someone who will protect your heart and your soul". You have to kick that kind of shit to the curb sometimes to remember you gotta love yourself first, protect yourself first, learn to love your own company and then you can love someone completely because you want to, not because you need to. Don't let people tell you to go find your "better half", instead go and search for your whole self first. It is only when we find ourselves and work on ourselves that we can then let others in and act less selfish to accept them for who they are and not what they do for us. I'm going to tell you to go eat good food, go laugh with a stranger, go play Dominos with your family, travel somewhere far with old friends to make new ones and share a moment with yourself. It's not about making each other whole, it's about coming together and making something even bigger. Then just maybe, maybe you'll discover someone who won't think you need them to open the car door for you, but rather someone who just wants to.
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